Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Goodbye Beloved Companion


This post is in honor of our beloved dog, Lady, who left us today, far, far too early, at just 8 years of age due to irreversible liver disease.

Lady came into our lives just three short years ago, which is when we found and adopted her from an animal rescue organization. Once we brought her home and got to know her sweet, loving ways, we couldn't imagine why anyone would have ever given her up. She was consistently happy, consistently loving, and consistently without any bad habits whatsoever, save an adorable passion for stopping in her tracks and plaintively howling at passing fire engines - which occurred with fairly regular frequency since we live right up the street from a fire station.

As I so often do when faced with things I don't understand, I went looking for words of comfort to help me deal with our loss. I found the lovely essay below, which has helped to soothe my hurting heart. I hope those of you that also love dogs find as much comfort in this as I did.

Why Do We Love Our Dogs So Much?

    It’s really quite simple: because people really, really love dogs—almost as much as they love their children. Sometimes, even more. 

    Dogs have very special social abilities. They have the capacity for love and devotion without expectations. They are grateful for what is given them on a daily basis. They have an instinctive need to be part of a pack whether that pack is other dogs, several people, or one person. They are intensely devoted to their pack. They will fight for the survival of that pack, including protecting you, the yard (territory), or other animals within their pack. 

    Dogs live in the moment, they forget about the disappointment the day before, and love you more than ever when you are there for them. They will try their best to please you if you are a good, kind pack leader, and will let you know if they are not pleased with your leadership --but even then, they do not stop being loyal to you. 

    Dogs are cuddly, warm, and amusing. They are intelligent animals that have the ability to communicate with you on a one-to-one basis if you are open enough to understand their language. Dogs can make you laugh, cry, and make you feel the need to nurture another living being - which is enormously soothing and fulfilling. 

    They provide companionship in a very committed way, that is nonjudgmental and complete in their devotion. We as humans can learn a lot from our dogs. Our fondness for dogs reminds us what we hope to become ourselves.


    And in return, our dogs only want to be fed, and told they are good, and most of all loved. If a dog has love, he really needs nothing else.

So goodbye sweet girl. We loved you with all our hearts, and our forever changed for the better for having had you in our lives. May you be out of pain forever, and in a place of peace until we hopefully meet again some day.

12 comments:

  1. Tamara: I'm so sorry! Anyone who has ever lost a dog knows how hard this is. We lost our Beagle (14 years old) 7 years ago and one of the major considerations keeping me from adding another canine family member is remembering how hard this part is. Give your broken heart time to heal.

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  2. I"m so sorry to hear that you lost your pup. We've lost two dogs in a year and half, but they were much older (sixteen) and we jumped right back in with two more (one of whom had cancer when we rescued him. It will get better.

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  3. We've lost two dogs in three years due to old age. A reminder that time marches on for us all. Sorry to hear of your loss. Are you a full empty nester, now, are will there soon be another dog sharing your retire life?

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  4. When Bailey joined our life last March she gave a whole new meaning to our satisfying retirement. We can't imagine our home without her.

    I feel for you and Mike during this tough time. If Lady was in pain, you have done the most loving thing a human can do for their pet. Bless you.

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  5. Tamara,
    I can imagine that this is a very sad time for you. Healing is just around the corner.

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  6. So sorry to hear about Lady. What a sad day it is to lose a being so close to your hearts. We have lost our share of cats over the years and it is never easy.

    Live your grief, but always keep Lady as a living memory in your hearts, minds and souls.

    Susan

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  7. Tamara, I am so sorry for this loss and how you must be feeling.My thoughts are with you at this difficult time! You loved well, and received even more back,I imagine!! Our fur children are precious!!

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  8. Thank you all for your very kind words. It's been a very rough couple of days, and many, many tears have been, and continue to be, shed.

    I've walked through pain enough times to know it does get easier, even as the getting through the pain is tough. If anyone had told me I could love a little creature to the degree I loved Lady, I don't think I would have believed them. Going forward, I'll better understand the magnitude of loss when I see others going through it, and hopefully, be better positioned to give them a helping hand to get through.

    -Tamara

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  9. I am so sorry-it is amazing how much we can grow to love our pets! Our daughter adopted a rescue Black Lab , and they moved moved back home with us when she got a job transfer back to our area. She radiates kindness, I can tell from the picture that Lady did, too.

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  10. So sorry for your loss Tamara and Mike. May you find comfort in knowing she is no longer in pain.

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  11. Tamara,

    I'm so sorry to hear about Lady. Putting her out of her pain was the right thing to do, but I'm sure not easy. I'm quite attached to my dog, so I can only imagine your pain. Hang in there. it will get better.

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  12. Thank you Beth, LuAnn and Sharon. I called our vet in tears a few days ago to discuss Lady's condition again, and ask if we had made the right decision. He was very kind, and reassured me that Lady was a very ill girl, and that our decision was appropriate and humane. I felt some peace return as I hung up the phone after our discussion.

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